Chronic Fatigue – How I See It – My Truth

Chronic Fatigue – How I See It – My Truth

Chronic Fatigue – How I See It – My Truth

My Story

Among the many issues, we have to deal with is constant fatigue. No wonder it gets more difficult to carry out the normal day to day activities, like updating content on the blog for instance. Anyway, we still do our best to do what we have to do and prove the disease wrong. There are days when I wake up and feel strong but sometimes it feels like you’ve been up all night. Sometimes it is difficult to understand where all the fatigue is coming from despite being in bed all day.

Let’s look at it this way, cancer and chemotherapy are an interesting combination to face against our body cells. Cancer cells eat away the body’s useful cells while chemotherapy attempts to burn away those cancer cells and ends up burning a bit of the remaining useful body cells. Because of all that we are forced to reduce our normal activities at least until we heal and our bodies regenerate new cells to function normally again. So you see, they say it gets worse before it gets better.

Staying in bed for long hours sounds like a fun activity but the bedsores are not something to look forward to because they leave the body protesting. It’s like spending hours in one position. Combining the fatigue from chemo with the moments of sickness and throwing up only drains up the body faster. When you lose more than you are gaining, it is most likely that you get fatigued.

Well, I know what you are wondering. How do you make it easier to manage? Apparently, there is no fixed way to manage it and at this point, knowledge of oneself comes in very handy. The way I see, everyone has that one thing that they love so much that it gets the reenergized just at the sound or sight of it. At times we do things because we can do them but at times we do them because we want to do them. When I wake up and I am too fatigued to get up from bed, I think of that one thing that I would go to extremes for and get started on it. For instance, I understand the magnitude of this blog to the readers and especially cancer victims. The thought of giving somebody other than myself the strength to carry on one more day just melts my heart and no matter how bad things get on my end (which sometimes happens) I know that I have more than just myself to encourage. In the process of writing the blogs, I often find myself motivating me too.

In short, don’t let what you are feeling take control of your life. We all have that divine purpose we are called to accomplish and the grace for it exceeds all other graces in our lives. So take advantage of that grace and use it to generate the strength to carry you through that moment of fatigue. It works, I promise.

Pain to Purpose

When I decided to establish this blog, I began to view things from a different eye. All the pain and struggles I have faced during my time with cancer have been like a training ground for me. The pains we face in life are actually not just meant to inflict pain for the sake of it. They are more like opposing energies that are meant to propel us into the purpose for which we were brought to this earth. The term ‘beauty for ashes’ is just as literal as it sounds. We have that power to use the pain we encounter to generate new energy for accomplishing our purpose.

The day I created this blog was the day I got so tired of harboring all the energy being generated by this pain I faced. On that day, I got a place to vent it out and allowed myself to be used as a vessel to transform negative energy into positive energy. What I am trying to say is that we have that choice and that authority to decide what to give produce even though we constantly face the tough side of life. Take some time to sit down and think about how to transform that pain you face into purpose. Don’t let it build up within you because the only way to manage it is to get rid of some of the pain you hold so you can give room for transformation into something beautiful. Look at the flower, as long as the bud remains closed, the flower cannot bloom and the beauty cannot be seen. Bloom and let the beauty resulting from that pain be seen. Nobody can ignore the vibrancy of a beautiful flower. When we love a flower we water it daily so let your flower bloom so people can spot it and water it. It gets better!

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A Small Quick Reminder and News….

A Small Quick Reminder and News….

A Small Quick Reminder and News

Hello! Everyone

I just wanted to thank everyone so far who has come to my blog to read my content, but I’ve just started.

I am going to start to open up about my illnesses and what I do to cope and hopefully help someone out there feel as if they can push through with it with beauty or feeling better by looking at your best.

I would really love to hear your story, I’d really love to speak with you to raise awareness about any chronic condition out there no matter how big or small you may think it seems, it’s still a battle, a battle I hope we can all support.

Please don’t forget to join my FB group With Pain Comes Beauty.

 

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That Dreaded Topic – Grief and Loss – How can You Cope?

That Dreaded Topic – Grief and Loss – How can You Cope?

That Dreaded Topic

Grief and Loss – How can You Cope?

Grief and Loss and How You Can Cope

It’s safe to say that every one of us has experienced grief and loss at one point or the other in our lives. For me, it has been a part of my life for a while, I lost my dad twice and it haunts me forever. He choked on a sandwich when I was 14 and I was trying to give him CPR whilst trying to get my little sister away from his changing color body. However, he ended up getting cancer and God rest his soul he was the kindest man alive and my hero. So I have experienced the loss of family and suffered PTSD as a result. I have also experienced the loss of my health in several painful ways, I have cancer. It has gotten me thinking about how people cope with grief and loss. I know firsthand that some people tend to believe you should feel or act a certain way. Is there really a right or wrong way to grieve and react to lose?

Let’s find out.

What is Grief?

Grief doesn’t start and stop in when someone you love dies. Grief is the natural response you experience to losing someone or something close to you. Grief often involves a wide range of emotions such as sadness, loneliness, shock, guilt, and so on – we will get to the stages of grief in a bit.

You might experience feelings of grief and loss when you lose your health, a job, a child, get divorced, lose a loved one or pet to death, lose a friend due to separation, or even sell a family home.

Getting overwhelmed by grief and loss is easy (natural) but the hard part is coping in a way that is healthy and healing.

How do you know you are experiencing grief?

The symptoms of grief are often the same for most people. Perhaps you have been trying to rise above the problem and act like it doesn’t hurt. You might be unable to beat the symptoms of grief that will come.

Emotional symptoms often involve things like shock and disbelief. You know that moment when you just can’t believe this happened. You may feel a certain numbness or go straight to denial. Then, there’s sadness. Intense sadness is the number one emotional symptom of grief. It makes you feel lonely, betrayed even, and most people cry a lot to express this. While some may not but they go through the same pain and the feeling of intense sadness.

The other emotional symptoms are guilt, anger, and fear. Several persons feel guilty when they grieve. You may regret the things you didn’t say or do. Or that you survived and the person or thing did not. Anger can be directed at anyone from yourself, to the person who left or died – yes it happens and it’s normal for you to be angry at a dead loved one for leaving you – to the doctors, or anyone your brain can tie to the loss.

Fear can be fear for your own life. When a loss involves death, some people close to the dead person may feel afraid and helpless. You fear how to go on alone or that your own life can end just like that.

Physical symptoms of grief include aches and pains, weight loss or gain, nausea, fatigue, and insomnia.

How you can cope with grief and loss?

Coping is quite a challenge when you have had something so deep and painful to happen. How do you ‘cope’ with the death of a husband, wife, brother, sister child, friend, relative, pet, and more? How do you cope with other losses too?

The truth is, it’s always easier said than done. Take it from a person who is not trying to sell you unrealistic possibilities, it can be very hard even when you understand you have to move on. The ways to cope which I would share below may look simple in text, but in action, it can take all your strength and resolve to practice them. I believe the good news is, it’s possible to cope with grief and loss in a healthy way.

1. Don’t believe the myths.

These famous myths about grief include

  • You are not sad or sorry if you don’t cry.
  • You have to forget your loss to move on
  • You must be strong in the face of loss
  • The harder you try to ignore the pain, the faster it will go away.
  • There is a specific expected time for grieving to end and your life returns to normal.

None of these is true. Cry if you want to, but never feel that tears are the only way to express your pain. You don’t have to be a tough guy or forget the loss either. Neither can you place a timer on when grief should cease.

2. Talk about it

Don’t lock your feelings up inside. Cry if and when you want. Talk to others about how you feel, how great the person was and what they meant to you, and how scared you are to move forward. Just find healthy ways to express yourself.

3. Acknowledge how you feel

Denial can make you believe this isn’t real. Some people who know its real hide their reactions for reasons best known to them. A major part of coping is to stand face to face with your feelings. Maybe you never realized you would feel this sad, acknowledge it. The sooner you can accept all the emotions and changes you are experiencing, the better for coping.

4. Preserve memories

Doing something to keep the lost one in your heart forever can help you heal. You can do a tribute or anything significant in their name. Building a memory box is great too. It helps to pull you out of a sad mood faster. Fill the memory box with objects that remind you of the person. These can include pictures, pieces of art, and so on.

5. Find a support group

Your friends or family can be your support group. But if you are open to other options, you can find a public support group that speaks specifically to your situation. For example, there are support groups for parents who have lost a child and so on. A counselor, pastor, or parent might point you in the direction of one in your area.

6. Don’t slip

Depression can easily slip in through grief. Avoid this. Go out and clear your head. Engage in physical activity. Cope as much as you can to prevent slipping into depression or to help you come out of it. Care for yourself physically as well.

Take care of everyone

Love <3

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