My struggle with Babies

My struggle with Babies

I cannot believe I am actually writing this. I’ve NEVER EVER wanted kinds since I was young and when I meet my husband I hit the jackpot because he didn’t want them too. Well…..

Now that I cannot have one at 34 due to my cancer, I am seeing all my friends having babies left right and center. Everyone is popping them out and all of a sudden I am becoming an Aunty or Tsa in Maltese how we say it. It’s really getting me down. I wonder what my baby would look like. Would he get my Dad’s baby blue eyes? Would he get my green eyes? Would he get my husband’s eyes in brow? My curly hair? Would a generation skip and he did get those big blue eyes my dad had and Pete’s Nonna’ has? You can stair are them for days. I wonder if he would be a dark colour like my father was, I use to be dark skin but lightened over time.

But am conflicted. Babies are a lot of hard work but mother’s say it’s worth it – yeah well perhaps wait till they’re 13/14 years old is all i CAN think of! I don’t know. Maybe it’s because everyone has had a baby this year and I am older I feel like I am loosing out. But I will love my nieces and nephews like my own.

i chose a career over a baby which was fine, now I have current issues I am facing muc bigger than a baby. a 32 year old one. I’ll save that for my next post.

Lots of Love

My Leo … My Best friend …

My Leo … My Best friend …

I have always wanted a Bull Terrier for so long but I wanted to adopt one but they’re usually snapped up pretty quickly for some reason when they’re in the pound but on one fateful day, I saw an ad in Western Sydney, 2 hours north of where I live, that two bull terrier pups were up for adoption but I had to be quick because they were scheduled to be euthanised. I told my husband this and we had just moved into our new house and started to prep for a dog but just not so soon but I begged him please can we go and so we set off.

When we got there, I seen this gangly, long legged looking puppy trying to be matched with this massive viscous German Shepherd and i BEGGED the lady to stop them from pairing them because it was horrible to watch, so they took the pup back to its filthy cage filled with newspaper, shit everywhere and just poor conditions. I asked to see the bull terriers and she took me back to the long legged but small puppy. He definitely wasn’t a bull terrier more like a pitbull terrier but I fell in love straight away. I was in love. Pete wasn’t sure and I had already said to him, I’m going to call him Leo after Leonardo diCaprio, my favourite actor. I felt so sorry for his sister but I really wanted a boy and I often think about her.

On the way home, Leo took full advantage of my air conditioned car and slept the whole way home. He was the perfect fur child. He is the best 500$ I’ve ever spent.

When we arrived home, we took him on a tour of the house and showed him every room before he bolted out the backdoor as soon as we opened it and he just rolled around on the green, soft fresh grass.

Leo is my everything. He is not a registered “service dog” but to me he is. If I am feeling anxious I hold his paw and he will just lick my hand non stop and give me unlimited kisses if I need. If I am sick from treatment, he will wait outside my ensuite on all four paws and wait for me at the door. He sleeps with me everynight either at my feet or snuggling up to me. I love my dog so much and to think that there is so many animals that are just as beautiful as him stuck in pounds kill me ready to be put to be put to sleep.

If you’re looking for a furry friend I encourage you to do so if you’re capable to look after him/her. They’ll love you unconditionally and they’re great for PTSD. They’re always happy to see you, they do not judge you, they love you and just want to be with you.

Please adopt. Don’t shop.

Love Petite Vibrant.

Mind Over Mater….

Mind Over Mater….

Mind Over Matter!

Hello! Everyone

Sorry I’ve been a little slow in the blog department. I’ve had a few deaths in the family and some really bad shit going on in my life. I am planning to sit down and make a video about it.

Have you checked out my youtube channel? I have been doing my makeup and just reflecting on things on my mind. I just want everyone to feel beautiful – use a nice, bold lipstick today, wear your favorite hat or put on some of your old time fav tracks and listen to the music that made you feel beautiful.

This week I want to share this story with you I wrote – please enjoy

If you’re a cancer patient like myself or going through chronic illness, then you know the troubles—that come along with it—can often become unbearable.

If you believe that this “mind over matter” philosophy doesn’t work, then you’ve got some rethinking to do. The way you think shapes the way you live, which ultimately determines the state of your health.

Mental stability is just as important as physical stability. In fact, your mental and physical state are directly linked. How you organize your thoughts directly impacts your health.

If you don’t believe me, then allow me to change your mind by giving you 5 ways adopting the mind over matter philosophy can help you overcome any problem!

1. Positive thinking encourages better health

Have you ever thought why people with a positive outlook on life live longer?

If you didn’t know this already, what goes in your mind affects your body deeply. People who encourage positive thinking tend to not only live longer but also healthier.

So lighten up your mood and get lost in the dreamy world of happy thoughts!

2. Trick your mind into believing

If you believe in something one-hundred percent for a long time, then your body will work to make it happen. Self-hypnosis can help you lose or gain weight, quit addictions, and even manage chronic pain.

So if you believe that you will beat cancer (and you will!), your body will put up more of a fight.

Don’t wait, start believing now that you will become better and you will beat cancer. Also, surround yourself with people who encourage this kind of positive thinking.

3. Believe in a higher purpose

As I explained before, your thoughts empower you to become a better version of yourself.

People who believe in a higher purpose firmly believe they can overcome any problem. By accepting that anything is possible, they unlock powerful resilience within them.

So, if you don’t believe you have a purpose, then you better change your outlook on life.

4. Meditation never hurts

If you want to get better sleep, reduce stress, control anxiety, increase focus, have more energy, strengthen your immune system, then start meditating.

Keeping these impressive benefits in mind, it’s easy to see that the 10-20 minutes of effort spent on meditating daily pays off in the long run.

If you don’t believe me, try searching “effects of meditation” on Google. I can guarantee you won’t see even a single source that has any negative thing to say about meditation.

5. Resist negative thoughts

Negative thoughts can hurt you.

If you’re taking medication but don’t believe that it will help you, then your chances of being cured reduce significantly.

So resist negative thoughts whenever they try to creep into your mind. Try to change what you’re thinking of something that triggers happy thoughts instead of sad ones.

Mind Over Matter Can Even Help You Beat Cancer

Mind over matter is the perfect philosophy for improving your mental hygiene. If you implement the 5 ways I mentioned in your life, then you will significantly improve your chances of beating cancer.

Don’t believe me? Check out this recent study by Harvard that concludes that a healthy lifestyle helps prevent cancer.

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A Small Quick Reminder and News….

A Small Quick Reminder and News….

A Small Quick Reminder and News

Hello! Everyone

I just wanted to thank everyone so far who has come to my blog to read my content, but I’ve just started.

I am going to start to open up about my illnesses and what I do to cope and hopefully help someone out there feel as if they can push through with it with beauty or feeling better by looking at your best.

I would really love to hear your story, I’d really love to speak with you to raise awareness about any chronic condition out there no matter how big or small you may think it seems, it’s still a battle, a battle I hope we can all support.

Please don’t forget to join my FB group With Pain Comes Beauty.

 

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That Dreaded Topic – Grief and Loss – How can You Cope?

That Dreaded Topic – Grief and Loss – How can You Cope?

That Dreaded Topic

Grief and Loss – How can You Cope?

Grief and Loss and How You Can Cope

It’s safe to say that every one of us has experienced grief and loss at one point or the other in our lives. For me, it has been a part of my life for a while, I lost my dad twice and it haunts me forever. He choked on a sandwich when I was 14 and I was trying to give him CPR whilst trying to get my little sister away from his changing color body. However, he ended up getting cancer and God rest his soul he was the kindest man alive and my hero. So I have experienced the loss of family and suffered PTSD as a result. I have also experienced the loss of my health in several painful ways, I have cancer. It has gotten me thinking about how people cope with grief and loss. I know firsthand that some people tend to believe you should feel or act a certain way. Is there really a right or wrong way to grieve and react to lose?

Let’s find out.

What is Grief?

Grief doesn’t start and stop in when someone you love dies. Grief is the natural response you experience to losing someone or something close to you. Grief often involves a wide range of emotions such as sadness, loneliness, shock, guilt, and so on – we will get to the stages of grief in a bit.

You might experience feelings of grief and loss when you lose your health, a job, a child, get divorced, lose a loved one or pet to death, lose a friend due to separation, or even sell a family home.

Getting overwhelmed by grief and loss is easy (natural) but the hard part is coping in a way that is healthy and healing.

How do you know you are experiencing grief?

The symptoms of grief are often the same for most people. Perhaps you have been trying to rise above the problem and act like it doesn’t hurt. You might be unable to beat the symptoms of grief that will come.

Emotional symptoms often involve things like shock and disbelief. You know that moment when you just can’t believe this happened. You may feel a certain numbness or go straight to denial. Then, there’s sadness. Intense sadness is the number one emotional symptom of grief. It makes you feel lonely, betrayed even, and most people cry a lot to express this. While some may not but they go through the same pain and the feeling of intense sadness.

The other emotional symptoms are guilt, anger, and fear. Several persons feel guilty when they grieve. You may regret the things you didn’t say or do. Or that you survived and the person or thing did not. Anger can be directed at anyone from yourself, to the person who left or died – yes it happens and it’s normal for you to be angry at a dead loved one for leaving you – to the doctors, or anyone your brain can tie to the loss.

Fear can be fear for your own life. When a loss involves death, some people close to the dead person may feel afraid and helpless. You fear how to go on alone or that your own life can end just like that.

Physical symptoms of grief include aches and pains, weight loss or gain, nausea, fatigue, and insomnia.

How you can cope with grief and loss?

Coping is quite a challenge when you have had something so deep and painful to happen. How do you ‘cope’ with the death of a husband, wife, brother, sister child, friend, relative, pet, and more? How do you cope with other losses too?

The truth is, it’s always easier said than done. Take it from a person who is not trying to sell you unrealistic possibilities, it can be very hard even when you understand you have to move on. The ways to cope which I would share below may look simple in text, but in action, it can take all your strength and resolve to practice them. I believe the good news is, it’s possible to cope with grief and loss in a healthy way.

1. Don’t believe the myths.

These famous myths about grief include

  • You are not sad or sorry if you don’t cry.
  • You have to forget your loss to move on
  • You must be strong in the face of loss
  • The harder you try to ignore the pain, the faster it will go away.
  • There is a specific expected time for grieving to end and your life returns to normal.

None of these is true. Cry if you want to, but never feel that tears are the only way to express your pain. You don’t have to be a tough guy or forget the loss either. Neither can you place a timer on when grief should cease.

2. Talk about it

Don’t lock your feelings up inside. Cry if and when you want. Talk to others about how you feel, how great the person was and what they meant to you, and how scared you are to move forward. Just find healthy ways to express yourself.

3. Acknowledge how you feel

Denial can make you believe this isn’t real. Some people who know its real hide their reactions for reasons best known to them. A major part of coping is to stand face to face with your feelings. Maybe you never realized you would feel this sad, acknowledge it. The sooner you can accept all the emotions and changes you are experiencing, the better for coping.

4. Preserve memories

Doing something to keep the lost one in your heart forever can help you heal. You can do a tribute or anything significant in their name. Building a memory box is great too. It helps to pull you out of a sad mood faster. Fill the memory box with objects that remind you of the person. These can include pictures, pieces of art, and so on.

5. Find a support group

Your friends or family can be your support group. But if you are open to other options, you can find a public support group that speaks specifically to your situation. For example, there are support groups for parents who have lost a child and so on. A counselor, pastor, or parent might point you in the direction of one in your area.

6. Don’t slip

Depression can easily slip in through grief. Avoid this. Go out and clear your head. Engage in physical activity. Cope as much as you can to prevent slipping into depression or to help you come out of it. Care for yourself physically as well.

Take care of everyone

Love <3

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6 Tips For Wellness Life Hacks Revealed!!!

6 Tips For Wellness Life Hacks Revealed!!!

6 Tips For Wellness Life Hacks Revealed

6 Tips For Wellness – Life Hacks!

Living healthy almost seems like a chore to some of us. Hearing about exercise and diet makes it look like a lot of hard work. I can assure you it’s not. Thankfully, you don’t need to become obsessed with diets and working out to live healthy and experience wellness because most times, it’s the little things we do that make all the difference.

I have put together a few tips and tricks for wellness. These are solid life hacks that can improve every area of your life. They are all expert-based. 

1. Have breakfast

Don’t roll your eyes, this is important! It’s no secret we live in a fast-paced world fraught with to-dos, schedules, hurried mornings, and so much more. Everything is in speed mode. With all of this to deal with, it can seem tough to find even a few minutes for breakfast. The funny thing is breakfast gives you fuel to start the day sharp and bright. If you can’t work out the time for breakfast in the morning, how about preparing the meal before you go to bed. Put things in place to make it faster and easier to have breakfast.

2. Get out a bit

Again, our modern lifestyle is to blame for keeping most people stuck in homes and offices for hours. No one seeks fresh air or a connection with nature anymore. It’s a healthy practice to get out more often, especially in the mornings and just breathe in. The benefits include better mood, more energy, good skin, stress relief, and improved blood pressure. 

3. Hydrate regularly

Did you know that in Japan, people take two glasses of water every morning? Did you also know they have the highest longevity with over 50, 000 centenarians in the country? Drinking water regularly helps to flush toxins from the blood, improve blood flow, boost brainpower, and make skin glow. Coffee, which is what most people seem to drink a lot, has the opposite effects. 

4. Have a ‘me’ time

Personal time is undervalued now more than ever. You need a ‘me’ time to enjoy your hobbies and meditate. It helps you clear your mind and learn more about yourself.

5. Eat healthy – Fruits and veggies especially

If you can’t find the time and commitment to eating healthily, your body will eventually force you to have the time for illnesses. Fruits and vegetables are delicious, easy to prepare or consume meals. They help boost the immune system, control heart health, blood sugar, and weight, some fruits contain antioxidants for fighting free radicals and are also anti-carcinogenic. Beef up your diet with these healthy foods. 

6. Sleep well

Parents always encourage a child to sleep because they understand that kids need their rest to grow. In the same way, adults need their rest to be healthy and happy. Health practitioners recommend 8 hours of sleep, but if we are being real, many of us don’t do that at all. From running a business or a few jobs to other activities, 8 hours may seem like a luxury. Well, luxury or not, you have to try your best. Start small with 5-6 hours. 

 

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